Things to Keep in Mind When Your Kid Misbehaves
Dealing with kids is very challenging. With kids around, we will never get enough peace and quiet from lack of patience to lack of sleep. However, this should not prevail. Bad times are part of parenthood but take solace from the fact that nothing compares to the joy it brings.
Every parent needs advice but sometimes, you learn things as you go along. When your kids misbehave, you should remember things.
Think first before speaking. When your kids misbehave, it is easy to just say the words. Kids get hurt too and that is the reason why they do it again. When you are about to speak something out of anger and frustration because of misbehaviour, you have to take a deep breath first before reacting. Remember that once words are said, you cannot take it back. Avoid using words that are unkind or cruel.
Remember that stuffs are replaceable. When your child breaks something out of misbehaviour, no matter how expensive stuff is, you should not stress its importance. Instead, think that stuffs are replaceable, not your kid. Walls, furniture and carpets can be replaced or cleaned but once your child is broken, it takes a lifetime to repair them.
You must be willing to enforce punishment. Stop threatening your child and start enforcing punishment. There is a difference between threatening and enforcing. Parents are often caught up in situation where they threaten kids to withdraw some privileges like no movies or internet for the whole week but when it comes to enforcing it, it is still not enough. If you want behaviour to improve, you should be prepared to enforce punishment and not just settle on threatening without actions.
You must cool off. When emotions are too high and you cannot seem to contain yourself, it is wise to cool off by leaving the room. It is important that you are calmed when talking to your kid because it can make a difference at the end of the day.
You must focus on the behaviour. When explaining to a child about the behaviour, stress that the behaviour needs to change not that the child is a bad person. When deciding on the punishment, you have to make sure that it is focused on the behaviour itself.
You love them anyway. The most important thing that you can do is to love your child no matter what happens. When they do something, it is hard to remember these things but at the end of the day, things can be replaced easily. Regardless of what they have done, you should always let them know how you love them.